We live in divided times. It seems like one group is pitted against the other wherever we turn. Sometimes we wonder if it’s possible to create more unity. But we are not powerless. Unification is possible, both personally and politically. We’ve been traumatized with uneasy... Continue

Couples come into my office fighting, shutting down, or giving up. They fear rejection, walk on eggshells, live with longing, frustration, crabbiness, compromise or stonewalling, arguing about who’s right or wrong while yearning for harmony.  I’m both honored and humbled to witness moments of repair... Continue

What we say to each other can destroy relationships. But sometimes it’s the things unsaid that kill connection – words that sit like stale, unspoken resentments or fears in the thick space of silences.  I started detaching from my mom because I thought that “setting... Continue

Sometimes I grit my teeth reading the news, I wonder, "Can’t we stop the worldwide killing, hatred, the judgments, the division?" Then I realize most people, including myself, need to heal our own inner terrorist. We all have negative reactions at times. When we hurt... Continue

We’ve pivoted from shutting our worldwide doors to the opening of stores and social settings. From zoom to podcasts and back to instagram, we squint at another required computer password. Then, pivot again through drought, dreading the fire season, hardly past elections and the tax... Continue

This doozy of a time in history brings many questions and insights. We boomers have stories to tell. The calamities we’ve seen are real and worth sharing. Do we honor elders enough in our community? Do older people respect youth? It’s important because we’re going... Continue

I’m weary of the slow death that accompanies carefulness. I want to have more fun before I die. I know it’s selfish when so many around the world are starving, suffering, or being bludgeoned by bullies. But being alive brings longing, and the bucket list... Continue

The woodpeckers thumping, rapping, knocking rattled me and my neighbors, way before our usual morning coffee. My neighbor crawled along my roof dangling tinsel and shiny objects from the gutters. I bought a big black battery spider that jumped out screaming “boo” when the red-headed... Continue

It’s a small goal: to get the gargantuan globe shaped into a calm, satisfied round ball.  Everybody has a different theory, from new laws, growing vegetables to solar panels and jobs. It just seems to me that if we can’t all get along, all the... Continue