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What's Up With That?

Valentines Day, the aftermath

Being single in Sonoma on Valentine’s Day, to put it bluntly, sucks. I miss conversations under my half of the electric blanket with a partner at the end of the day. I yearn to plan trips with a special someone. Still, I can’t imagine another... Continue

A New Year, what to do?

Still full from fattening fun or dysfunctional family functions, I’m facing the New Year bursting with hairballs (like cat’s have.) There are Valentines in the stores, there’s regret and excitement in the air, people losing or finding partners, and questions about what’s next. And then,... Continue

Dear Santa, send money

Money, money, money. It’s on most of our minds, particularly during gifting season. I’m trying to keep my sense of humor about it, but what’s funny about not having enough money? There’s just no “ho- ho- ho” in it – even if there’s a ‘ho’... Continue

Out of the blue

Hope and sadness are strange bedfellows. I struggle with depression this time of year. The dark weather drags down my inner enthusiast. Autumn stirs memory and loneliness. What’s that about? Some neurotransmitter loss? Not enough fun? Too much fun? Longing for the sun to shine?... Continue

Is therapy effective?

It’s charming to be witty, but being humorous about being a psychotherapist is almost impossible. Humans are funny people, but the human condition is more serious than sexy or fun. There are so many theories in psychology. Everyone from Freud to Jung, Rogers to Whitaker,... Continue

Anger, panic and hope

I’m angry that there’s so much violence on TV; I’m enraged that animals are still mistreated, I’m furious that cancer is epidemic and our money goes to war instead of wellness. I’m mad that we don’t learn communication skills in school, which makes relationships much... Continue

On shaky ground

Just when I was finishing this column the earthquake hit. So, now my writing rolls a different way. Good God, what a week! The world is upside down with beheadings, hangings, rocking and rolling in the middle of the night. Everyone I talk to is... Continue

Dealing with it

To tell you the truth I hate to write about loneliness and death again, but it seems that these are inevitable experiences in my life. I sat with Dave Robbins recently, on a balmy evening outside with friends. He was so alive, so reverberating with... Continue

Poop happens

Why is the subject of poop so important in Sonoma? We take great pride in our lovely town, and we argue constantly about whether to allow dogs on certain paths or not. People aren’t shy about stepping in it – the argument, that is. Some... Continue

High temperatures, rising tempers

The Fourth of July was bubbling with fun, except the booming firecrackers scared my dogs to death. Willie trembled as we hid in my bedroom, TV turned up, trying to muffle the sounds outside. I don’t want to be a party pooper, but what’s up... Continue