I am feeling a lot of compassion for men lately. Reading the news doesn’t help me with that, but my therapy work does. The topic is ticklish these days, with the onslaught of throbbing, bullish boys in courtrooms, etc. Even the gift of a Jumbo... Continue
What's Up With That?
We are all collectively going through changing, sometimes churning, times. The environment seems unsure, less stable. Daily we all face the feeling of not knowing. Not knowing if stocks will flop or go sky high. Not knowing if our health will hold our healthcare. And... Continue
Everywhere I go I see scrunched faces or raised eyebrows popping up. Politics is on our minds, whether we turn away from it or not. People often say something like, "I’ve quit watching the news. It’s too stressful." If I step a little deeper into... Continue
We’re entering spring and everyone’s romping with their adopted dogs or purring with their pussy cats. The magnificent animals – the wondrous “individuals of another species” – are an important part of community. How can we make our earth safe for them? If I ran... Continue
That round ball above our necks called the brain is a hazardous, complex machine. We all have different parts inside it, some of us manage them better than others. I can assure you though – the inner tyrant is in us all. You might paste... Continue
Does anybody else crave a lift after this long winter? The election season, the rains and treacherous fires in L.A., have left me longing for some fun. I yearn for the clever Mad Magazine days. Some of you might recall Alfred E. Newman on the... Continue
I ran into a woman who said she wanted me to write about relationship conflict, and since it’s Valentine's season, here goes. I try to make it simple for folks because when we're in an angry, uptight catfight, it's not easy. You’re probably not going... Continue
If you grapple with family, or any relationships, at the holidays, the hard part is listening well. After opening gifts, those thingamajigs you never use, eventually you have to talk to each other. As Bessel Van der Kolk wrote, “The critical issue is reciprocity: being... Continue
These are the times that try our souls. We’re watching clocks change to early night darkness and elections rocking our boats. This next round of no-light-after-5 p.m. begins soon. Why do they call it daylight savings anyway? In this spooky season of the trickster, we... Continue
Is the patriarchy dying? Could we be in a crescendo of change? As Clarissa Pinkola Estés (Author of Women Who Run with The Wolves) wrote, “The Black Madonna, in all her representations, is known as the healer of crippledness, the healer of harmed women, hurt... Continue