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What's Up With That?

If you can’t say something nice…

Why do people make such odd comments after the death of friends? It kind of throws me: “Oh well, she wasn’t into health foods and fitness” or “He stressed too much…” Maybe it’s true but isn’t it odd – blaming and criticizing dead community? Hey,... Continue

From birds to bees

Spring has sprung, bees are buzzing and so are people. As birds bring tiny branches to my bird house, humans seem to want community, too. But, I notice that life can be lonely when we don’t connect with neighbors and loved ones, when we’re shunned... Continue

Memo from Caesar the cat

It’s hard going through old papers and picture albums. The dust and memories are tough, sometimes. I miss my mother every day. But, when I read her wonderful musings I smile. So, I thought, in advance of Mother’s Day, I’d pass along some of my... Continue

Consumed by a weight-loss culture

What’s eating me? I’m so tired of the pressure to lose weight! I don’t think anyone in California ever feels thin enough. What’s up with that? Is it all about looking good on the beach? While the rest of the world is starving to death,... Continue

Money, death and spring

I know it’s the beginning of spring and we’re supposed to lighten up, but I have a hairball tonight. Sometimes I just have to get them out, like cats do. Life’s too short to hold it all in. I’m a baby boomer and people are... Continue

Community rocks

We are all challenged with something… death, divorce, illness, money issues, bad coffee, who knows what. It all makes community connection more important than ever before. Whether we are getting older or in transition, we need each other. Nobody taught me friendship 101. Sometimes I’m... Continue

Keep the change

This time of year even people with a lot of money worry about money. An average American spends $786 on Christmas gifts. And now, with the halls un-decked and all those live trees dumped. What’s next? Yup, the tax man. I talk to folks who... Continue

Untangling unhappy endings

Holiday hairballs abound this time of year. Some relationships have ended. As we reflect back, we realize that some stopped abruptly and some were never completed. Why do we split off, instead of mending these split ends? I hear it all the time: “Hey, I’m... Continue

It’s the people

This week was tough. I woke up feeling worried, with a sense of dread. Why? I wasn’t sure. Maybe it was the upcoming holidays and winter months weighing on me and wondering how I would maneuver through it all. It might have been financial concerns.... Continue

What ever happened to comfortable furniture?

Recently I was sitting on a little bitty chair at a café, back hunched over, neck scrunched down. “Why is this table so low it hits my knees?” I squawked. Squishing my lower end around I grumbled, “And why is the back of this chair... Continue