As a psychotherapist, I've spent much of my life helping people get along and trying to learn it myself. Now, watching this brutal war in Ukraine I’m derailed seeing destruction again coming from dictators and other human beings. Why do we have so many cruel... Continue
What's Up With That?
It’s been a confusing, disorienting, challenging century…. from growing up with White Rabbit to growing old with Trump. And now it’s time to swivel again. We wonder whether to keep the slower pace, less social lifestyle, quilting or carpentry projects, relocate, change jobs; basically, what... Continue
Along with The Big Lie, we’ve now got The Big Quit – people walking off their jobs. It’s crazy out there, it’s all too much, the problems of this world. Thank God there are a few inspiring things happening that excite me. Queen Latifah, star... Continue
Along with The Big Lie, we’ve now got The Big Quit – people walking off their jobs. It’s crazy out there, it’s all too much, the problems of this world. Thank God there are a few inspiring things happening that excite me. Queen Latifah, star... Continue
What have we learned from this pandemic? Maybe who our friends are, who stuck with us, who disappeared? Or, how to ride the waves of constant not-knowing? I wish I could say I’ve gotten better at self-discipline. I would like to believe I’m more aware... Continue
Bending over the drain in front of my house, shoveling dirt and rocks away so the rain could flow through, my neighbor’s huge bulldog, all bulk and muscle, bolted between my legs. I jolted, standing straight up, fluttering an embarrassed request, “How about some help... Continue
Awed by all we’ve been through, from fire seasons to silent streets with worldwide plague, we wonder what matters. Uncertain about our future, we feel more vulnerable. Questions loom as we reflect on our lives at this turn of the year. We ponder many things,... Continue
This has been a heavy, challenging few years for us all. I thought some laughter might be needed here, but not much seemed funny these days. Then, I realized that we all might be sitting on it right now: chairs. Ever notice how they make... Continue
We live in divided times. It seems like one group is pitted against the other wherever we turn. Sometimes we wonder if it’s possible to create more unity. But we are not powerless. Unification is possible, both personally and politically. We’ve been traumatized with uneasy... Continue
Couples come into my office fighting, shutting down, or giving up. They fear rejection, walk on eggshells, live with longing, frustration, crabbiness, compromise or stonewalling, arguing about who’s right or wrong while yearning for harmony. I’m both honored and humbled to witness moments of repair... Continue